My Story: Part 1.. Single, Saved, and Celibate
Guest Blogger: Ashley Joy
Dating numerous of men from different backgrounds, age groups and beliefs was something different for me. Throughout that process I found myself compromising both my standards and values all for the pursuit of “love and happiness.” The dating process was draining and repetitive. I was tired both mentally and spiritually. My last string with dating was in early 2010 I was stood up by for dinner by a man I was dating for 3 months. That was a wake up call for me that I had to do something different something better. That night I prayed and cried out to my father and laid before Him my frustrations, fears and insecurities. As I was crying I felt the Holy Spirit whisper to me “Give me your whole heart daughter, I want all of you.” That day, moment and prayer changed my life forever.
“The unmarried woman concerns should be to pleasing the father” 1 Corinthians 7:34
God showed me that He alone should be my fulfillment. I’ve failed miserably in my pass relationships because I was trying to be the Author of my own Love story. I was trying to look for a Man that would “complete” me when I should have been whole already. I was wasting precious time finding the right one when I should have been focused more on becoming the right one. And each time I gave my body, spirit, and emotions away I gave piece of my treasure that I could never get back.
Im traveling down a road so few modern day woman travel. I’ve decided to do it God’s way so that He can get the glory. I desire a beautiful, lasting, God-written love story with a Man who reflects my father in Heaven and would also one day be head over my life. I traded in this false imagery that’s displayed through music, reality TV shows and movies for a holistic walk that consists of purity, virtue and patience.
Today, I can honestly say a relationship with a guy is no longer my end pursuit. I truly believe that in the right season my heavenly father will bring me a guy that is more than I can ever dream. I don’t have to go searching, dating or settling for imitations. My Husband will find me and when he does I will recognize him because he’s the one I prayed for. I am enjoying my single life while learning what it would take to be a God-fearing wife, mother, and servant leader from both my mother and women who are wise in that area. I love spending my time in worship, and I love when God reveals to me what I need to do in order to be greater in certain areas.
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